yeah, 8 and above is a lot. and i'd say for a first try and exploratory thing, you definitely don't need something that vibrates, either. fingers are good. you want to know your own body, and know what feels good.
have you ever masturbated? surely you have, right?
i don't think you're talking about the vampire anymore. but you might like to be bitten. don't dismiss anything until you've tried it once, you know?
fingers are good. you can decide how deep you go, and you can add one or two more when you feel comfortable. the easier is to be on your back or on your knees.
sorry, i thought - it feels like one of these things we all do as soon as we realize we can have boners. i didn't mean to sound judgy. but you should definitely do that.
I'm trying to keep an open mind. There's a lot to consider. Now there's biting...
How many? Three? I'm not sure it makes sense. Not the part about fingers, that makes sense. But the positioning.
I'm not exactly characteristic of most people, so I understand why you'd say that. It's fine. My body functions normally, like anyone else's, but I just never did anything about it.
well, honestly, i'd recommend you masturbate first. lube up your hand and touch yourself. it's like, your base. once you've got a hang of that, you can try out adding fingers. work yourself up, and then add more lube, and start with one finger. on your back is probably the best.
I'd just like to feel like I have an idea of what I like. I'll try what you suggested. Thank you. You really didn't have to help me out so much, so I appreciate it.
honestly, in my opinion you'd do best with a partner. once you know your own body a little better, anyway. are you doing this with the intent of having sex with someone, or is it just for yourself?
it might help you in other ways, too. but, honestly, if you've never had one, even by yourself, you definitely need to have an orgasm. you deserve it. we all do.
i wouldn't worry about them not happening at all or taking that long, but they can. but everything is okay, when it comes to sex. what matters is that you don't pressure yourself, and you communicate with your partner when you're ready to go there with them.
i wouldn't say we're entirely comfortable. well, joonie might be more comfortable than i am, but he has his reasons.
i think everyone is different. do you feel comfortable?
i think so, yes. if you don't talk about things, then you just start assuming, and that is usually wrong. and then feelings get hurt, and people keep on not talking until it boils over and you might get into a fight that just damages your relationship a lot. it's not worth keeping your thoughts to yourself.
i am happy, sometimes. he is happier. i'm happy he's happy.
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none, whatsoever? at all? so the batteries are for a toy? what kind of toy? don't go too big if it's a first.
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None whatsoever. I don't really know all the names for things, honestly. How big is too big?
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well if we're talking dildo, usually anything above 8 inches is considered big, but i guess it depends on how tall you are, a bit. ow tall are you?
but really it's more about girth. don't get anything that looks scary.
although i guess if you really have no experience whatsoever i'd recommend using your own fingers first. and lots of lube.
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I'm not really worried about that though.
Oh, I'm not tall. More than eight inches sounds very [ what?? ] challenging.
I definitely have plenty of lube. [ Thank you, Minsu. ] Maybe I'm getting ahead of myself and I should put off getting the batteries...
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yeah, 8 and above is a lot. and i'd say for a first try and exploratory thing, you definitely don't need something that vibrates, either. fingers are good. you want to know your own body, and know what feels good.
have you ever masturbated? surely you have, right?
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All right. Thank you. I'll wait on the batteries and try what you said first. I thought that might be tougher...
When people say "surely," it doesn't exactly inspire someone to say "no, I haven't," does it?
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fingers are good. you can decide how deep you go, and you can add one or two more when you feel comfortable. the easier is to be on your back or on your knees.
sorry, i thought - it feels like one of these things we all do as soon as we realize we can have boners. i didn't mean to sound judgy. but you should definitely do that.
wait. have you ever had an erection?
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How many? Three? I'm not sure it makes sense. Not the part about fingers, that makes sense. But the positioning.
I'm not exactly characteristic of most people, so I understand why you'd say that. It's fine. My body functions normally, like anyone else's, but I just never did anything about it.
Now I need to figure it out.
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well, honestly, i'd recommend you masturbate first. lube up your hand and touch yourself. it's like, your base. once you've got a hang of that, you can try out adding fingers. work yourself up, and then add more lube, and start with one finger. on your back is probably the best.
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I don't want to get ahead of myself.
I'd just like to feel like I have an idea of what I like. I'll try what you suggested. Thank you. You really didn't have to help me out so much, so I appreciate it.
[ His head is spinning! ]
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i don't mind. i'm glad to help.
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But I also want to be prepared to do this with someone special.
Lots of people here have been glad to help us with things. It's a good house.
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it is a good house. i was not convinced, at first, but i've been persuaded
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What made you wary at first?
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everything did.
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Everything is really broad.
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it's still accurate.
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I guess it means your journey has been pretty dramatic.
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i don't know if it's been more dramatic than anyone else's, but it's made us very wary and distrustful, at first, yes. we're getting better.
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It's big though. To go from being wary of everything to being comfortable. Do you think everyone else felt that way?
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i wouldn't say we're entirely comfortable. well, joonie might be more comfortable than i am, but he has his reasons.
i think everyone is different. do you feel comfortable?
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Joonie? What reasons are those?
I feel as comfortable as I know how. It's a new feeling for me.
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joonie's my twin brother, and he's in love. so he's more comfortable than i am.
you like it? this new feeling.
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Oh, right- I do know him, but I didn't recognize the nickname. You're both happy here though, right?
I like almost every new feeling I've felt, even the ones that hurt.
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i am happy, sometimes. he is happier. i'm happy he's happy.
you've been hurt?
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why did I format those last two tags incorrectly? we may never know....
i see nothing wrong
never happened!
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